My name is Kierra, but I like to be called by my middle name, Imani, I think it's just such a beautiful name and it means Faith!!! I loooveeeee to sing, and dance, and jump around, and anything else that has nothing to do with BORING!!! My teacher has me writing this blog :( as an assignment and I have no idea what to say because my life is so interesting that it wld take a miliion years

Ben Franklin said that and I am inclined to agree. I know that's a radical contrast from my previous stances of both not giving a damn and almost wishing the worst would happen to me. But when the house of cards came crashing down, with it came my faith. Faith came to a grinding standstill. I have regained my faith largely because I accept the fact that it may be just a dream. Accept that I could spend a lifetime and still never reach the promised land but I hold on to hope. That's all I can do but if there's one lesson I have learned from the past it is that love cannot dwell with suspicion and that if I do feel suspicion - that there's probably a good reason for it. Along with a great fall comes increasing restrictions on your ability to thoroughly invest yourself in the next great love affair. That is why I will not fall so easily in love again and why I won't drown.

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   Posted by Sapphiestears on Sep 9th, 2009 at 7:40PM

   I completely agree with you

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   Posted by dobema01 on Sep 9th, 2009 at 7:52PM

   I definitely agree with this statement. My boyfriend and I have been going out for two years, and it has taken me a long time to learn how to trust him. Even with the small things, like holding my hand, or listening to me, has taken time. But the truth is, I've had a lot of less-caring, less-supportive boyfriends and a mother who has borderline personality disorder, both of which has forced me to set up boundaries for myself.
   Honestly, I can say that knowing both sides makes the caring relationship just that much sweeter.

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   Posted by MosaicManX2 on Sep 9th, 2009 at 8:15PM

   I can't empathize with the mother however, I can say that given my propensity for diving neck deep into relationships to the point where it became a part of my identity was a critical factor in my evolution from that point.

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What is trust?

A trusted party is presumed to seek to fulfill policies, ethical codes, law and their previous promises.

Trust does not need to involve belief in the good character, vices, or morals of the other party. Persons engaged in a criminal activity usually trust each other to some extent. Also, trust does not need to include an action that you and the other party are mutually engaged in. Trust is a statement about what is otherwise unknown -- for example, because it is far away, cannot be verified, or is in the future.In the social sciences, the subtleties of trust are a subject of ongoing research. In sociology and psychology the degree to which one party trusts another is a measure of belief in the honesty, fairness, or benevolence of another party. The term "confidence" is more appropriate for a belief in the competence of the other party. Based on the most recent research, a failure in trust may be forgiven more easily if it is interpreted as a failure of competence rather than a lack of benevolence or honesty. In economics trust is often conceptualized as reliability in transactions. In all cases trust is a heuristic decision rule, allowing the human to deal with complexities that would require unrealistic effort in rational reasoning.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trust_(social_sciences)

1.reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

2.confident expectation of something; hope.

3.confidence in the certainty of future payment for property or goods received; credit: to sell merchandise on trust.

4.a person on whom or thing on which one relies: God is my trust.

5.the condition of one to whom something has been entrusted.

6.the obligation or responsibility imposed on a person in whom confidence or authority is placed: a position of trust.

7.charge, custody, or care: to leave valuables in someone's trust.

8.something committed or entrusted to one's care for use or safekeeping, as an office, duty, or the like; responsibility; charge.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/trust

Out of 221 responses, only 1 person said that they would seek preofessional help if their boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on them. 25 people said that they would get revenge on them. 49 people like myslelf would talk to friends or family about the situsation. Also 43 people said that they would cry. Only 23 people would start yelling and gettin angry. Glad to know, only 9 people would start being promiscuous. 18 people break things. 48 people said that handle it differently.

Why do we trust?

Why do we trust people we perceive to be similar to ourselves? Surprisingly, the answers are simple. Trust between people is based on the perception that efforts between the parties will be reciprocated, reactions will be predictable, and members of the organization will least likely be faced with situations in which they are unprepared. The desire for security is a key motivator in developing trusting relationships in an organization.
People tend to more readily accept those who have similar backgrounds and common life elements with which they can identify. We think those similar to ourselves will react to a situation in a predictable manner. People want to appear consistent in their behavior, and respond to others who appear consistent. According to a Baylor University Academic Journal, “trust is based on a perception of the probability that other agents will behave in a way that is expected (Gambetta, 1988)” (Entrepreneurship: Theory and Practice, July 2006).
Persuasion is how we are influenced to trust based on our environment and life experiences. The persuasion to trust a person can be brought about by our peers, our needs, and the availability of opportunities which support our way of life. Persuasion motivates us to accept and trust people, ideas, principles, faiths, and respect authority.
According to Robert Cialdini(1), there are six characteristics of human nature which come into play to bring forth a favorable response in persuasion. These are “reciprocation, consistency, social validation, liking, authority, and scarcity.” These elements will either positively or negatively influence a person to make a decision about trusting someone they have just met, and understanding the effects of persuasion can improve relationships within an organization.
Someone who has not gained our trust may seem like a wild card, and when gaging the successful outcome we hope the deck is stacked in our favor. This fear of failure allows us to justify exclusions within the workplace, even if we know the exclusions are unfair or wrong. If we have to share responsibility for the outcome of a project, we want to give ourselves every advantage possible.

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Gender, age, and physical attributes are just a few sources of distrust. People can feel threatened by these differences, even if they have nothing to do with the performance of the worker in question. This is why is it vital for the organization to have a powerful, respected and established authority, because when in doubt, members of the organization will trust those they respect. “[Authority] can build trust by signaling the other's trustworthiness and reducing the inequality of exchange.” (2)
The motivation of security. People trust those similar to themselves because of fear and insecurity, the thought of facing situations they aren't prepared for, and reducing risk in their lives. From this, we can see that the goal of surrounding ourselves with those we trust is to establish the strongest network of support so our trepidation is met with confidence when faced with daunting tasks. People want security, and find security in things they know and understand.
Persuasion is partly based on ideas people have already accepted, and furthered by the probability of gaining more security. Sometimes, this limits our ability to explore new ideas and possibilities because we want to control risk. Trust is a risk taking experience, but so is repeated acceptance of subjective persuasion without considering the benefits of unexplored options.
Understanding why people trust those similar to themselves can help distinguish biased or prejudiced judgments from valid concerns. The ability of people to communicate reasonable concerns or apprehension to the organization can avert obstacles in the completion of projects, and strengthen team member relationships.Read more at Suite101: Why do we trust people?: Perception, persuasion, motivation, and how this affects trust. http://office-politics.suite101.com/article.cfm/why_do_we_trust_people#ixzz0jDodVlWg

Research Questions for Relationships

• What do you do when your bf/gf cheats on you?
• Why do people get upset when a relationship goes down the drain?
• How does it make you feel when someone you love loses trust in you?
• How do you feel when you lose trust in someone that you love?
• Do you think you can ever gain their trust back?
• What makes a person trust another person?

Shut Behind The Closet Door

I sit here and think to myself, why do people feel lonely. It came to my mind that not too long ago, I felt the same way. My reasoning for feeling this way might be the same as others. I will never know. I do notice that when I look at the news, something bad happens everyday, someone gets shot everyday, while a baby is being birthed into this world, another one is facing death. I look and see how people are hurt everyday and I think of myself. I have never been in harmful situations, such as the people i watch on the news. Being raised in my little city of Decatur, much of this violence is not acted. But whose to say that one day a person will try to kill me. my family, a friend, or just a neighbor down the street. I worry about that. I expect to wake up every morning and fall asleep every night. Never thinking of reality. Reality. Reality is real. Death is real, violence is real, pain is real. We don't live a fairytale life and that frightens me. Sometimes, I'm afraid to walk down the street of a neighborhood, or I'm scared to go in the store in a plaza. Sometimes, I just want to lay in bed all day, never facing that the next person sparing their life will be.

Shut Behind The Closet Door

Most males express and cope with depression differently from females. Although this mental health condition is common in both males and females, it has been recognized among females more than in males. It's important to understand how males deal with depression differently from females. Males also are likely to exhibit symptoms that deviate from the symptoms females experience.Men have the tendency to minimize their depression because most symptoms used to describe depression are emotional such as sadness, hopelessness or loneliness. Most men will deny experiencing these emotions and avoid talking about their feelings. In fact, men will deal with depression as if it's another challenge. Instead of seeking treatment, many men may try to tough things out. Males who suffer from depression exhibit symptoms that differ from females. Females internalize their feelings, while men become aggressive and outwardly display what they're feeling. For instance men are likely to become compulsive about work, irritable, violent, abuse alcohol or drugs, engage in risky sexual behavior or lose interest in sex, and lose interest in hobbies. The pattern of depression takes a different form in females. Females can experience depression related to reproductive hormones after a pregnancy, during a menstrual or during menopause. Because females internalize events and circumstances, they may display symptoms of stress related to their jobs, relationships or an intense situation. Females tend to recognize depression and talk about their feelings more than males do.

Shut Behind The Closet Door

Denise's Story

When I was a student, I had a boyfriend for almost three years, but we had to finish our relationship. My hopes, my dreams, and all the purpose of life seemed to have come to an end. I had no reason for living, no one to share my life! I was feeling so lonely! Nothing else could fill my emptiness.

I began to think that maybe God could help me. Then someone who knew my situation invited me to go to a church, and this person assured me I would be better after going there. The speaker at the church meeting was talking about Jesus, how He would like to take my hand, and lead me all the way ahead. He said that Jesus is alive, and that He would like to live with me and help me to overcome all difficulties. I cried and prayed, "Jesus, I want you in my life. I know you died to give me life. Take all my sad and bad feelings and give me purpose for my life. Give me all you have. Guide me until the end. I give my life to you."

I realised He was with me as if at the table having a meal, or walking on the street, or in my room. I was not alone. I could talk to this special and perfect friend! And I had new friends who were Christians, who helped me, and invited me to help them on my holidays. I was able to go with them to the Amazon area of Brazil to help run a children's holiday club.

I have discovered that the real purpose of my life is, "Receive love from Jesus, and give it to other people in this unhappy world."

Shut Behind The Closet Door

I researched my topic and it said that the main factor of ------- is beng lonely. Loneliness is a very powerful emotion. It can lead to depression, illness, even suicide. Although it may often hit the old, sick or handicapped people, it is very common among young people too. A type of loneliness is sexual. 25% of people feel this way.Don't look for the answer to loneliness in a sexual relationship. Many people, especially girls, move from one quick sexual relationship to another, desperate to find closeness and meaning. When this happens, the sort of people they find usually only want the sex part of the relationship, and do not offer more in return. Always remember, even in a stable long-term relationship or marriage, you should still not expect your partner to meet all of your emotional needs. They should certainly meet many of your needs, because your partner should be your best friend. But you will also need a network of good relationships with other friends, giving and taking help and support. We as people try to live out our lives through the imaginary relationships in films, TV, books, or even arm-length relationships on the Internet. These aren't real relationships. Though we don't want to, we have to live the real world. To be wanted and needed, is a big answer to loneliness. This means that you can volunteer at places sometimes. Make yourself wanted and needed by doing good things to beefit others. Hospital visiting, visiting old people, assist an advice center, an inner city help program - the list is endless. Or just learn to be a listening person who can understand how other people feel, and help them. In helping other people, we find friends and lose loneliness. There will always be somebody out there looking for us. We have to make ourseves available to them though. Show that you want to help othersand they will come to you and feed your loneliness. Never drink or smoke. Of course it may take away feelings of loneliness for a few hours, but does not answer the real problem. The problem will still be there when you're sober. You may feel separated from other people because of wrong things that others have done or said to you, or things that you have done or said to others. These things build a wall between you and another person. We as humans will make mistakes and we have to learn how to forgive each other. Look for a way to become friends again. If you have been hurt as a child through sexual or emotional abuse, or difficult relationships with parents, don't bury those feelings. It is possible to find victory over these hurts. They happen for a reason. You might never see it, but it will make you a better person in the long wrong. It will help make you stronger, whether you want to or not. Things happen to everyone. Regardless of what it is, somebody is always going to hurt. Use that as a way to make friends. Share with others your past, they might be able to help you

Research questions

• Do males or females have this feeling more?Percentage?
• Why are people depressed?
• Would the two genders feel this way b/c of the other gender?
• What gender is easier to cope with it?
• What age group is more likely to have this self-defeating problem?
• Can people be raised to feel this way?
• Does this feeling come from lack of love?
• Are people who feel this way less likely to explore the world?
• Can this feeling simply come from loss of money, family, work, or b/c of fear of what other might think of you?

Research questions 2

What makes people feel this way? Is it abuse, is it friends, family, or just the thought of life itself?

• Do you ever feel depressed?
• If so, what makes you have this feeling?
• Why do you feel lonely?
• Do you feel unloved?loved?
• Have you ever been abused in any kind of way?
• Do you watch the news? Does it frighten you?
• Have any tragedies happen in your life? Do you mind sharing?
• Do you think you will feel this way forever?
• How do you feel about having this feeling? Do you regret it?
• Are you afraid to go out in the world by yourself?
• Does this feeling come from a lack of.....
• Do you think that this feeling will get in the way of you living your life?
• Does feeling this way make you feel dependent on others? Independent
  

• Why do you think people feel this way?
• Is it a natural feeling?
• Do you feel people might be afraid of living b/c that's how they were raised?
• Have you ever felt this way about life? Do you think you ever will?
• Have tragic things happen to you, where it too might cause you to be afraid to live life?
• What is your viewpoint on someone who has this feeling?

Kierra Imani"MynaG" Morgan

IT MATTERS
WHAT YOU…. SAY
DO
THINK
FEEL
CREATE
IMAGINE
HOW YOU…. LOVE
GIVE
RECEIVE
SERVE
PLAY
COMMUNICATE
THAT YOU…. CARE
LIVE
REST
LAUGH
RISK
APPRECIATE

I'm missing you....

RIP Mikel –gone but NEVER forgotten

Today I lost a friend
Can’t say I knew him well
Cared for him
Talked to him
But I knew him

Just a guy at my school
A friend of a friend
A brother of a friend
Neighborhoods away
Never needed to talk to him

Sudden death
Over an argument
No answer why
Just know it was because a stupid argument

Only 17
So young
Future, no future
He still didn’t deserve this

I wish I had known him
Talked to him more
I gave him years
God gave him hours

What if it was me?
Would they care?
I hope I get a memorial service
I hope somebody cries

Needless to say
We love you Mikel
Gone but never forgotten
Watch over me

In ISS bored...

I'm in ISS bored because nobody is here. While I was sitting here, this nonsense came across my mind: I look at my past then at my present. Now, I wonder of my future. Scared to live for tomorrow I know not of what might happen. Live life to the fullest I'm not allowed. Explore, that might get me in some trouble. Confused everyday. He say she say. Drama never dies. Abused and mistreated. Did it really make me a better person? They say you can’t love somebody or receive love unless you love yourself. Maybe people can’t love themselves b/c they feel as if nobody loves them. Trust in God for He will never forsake you. I hear that all the time. Never question Him. But then again I have to wonder why is my world so cold and lonely. God has plans for me? I wish I could see what they were. Memories never die. Especially the painful ones. “Everybody has a story to tell”…I love you….you’re an angel that God has sent down to me…you’ll never be nothing…I know you aint getting soft on me….HIGH STANDARDS.

Shut Behind The Closet Door

Wonder how I got the title Shut Behind The Closet Door. I chose it because, when a child is scared the feel the need to hide under the bed or in the closet. You hide behind the closet fear of what might be outside of it.

Shut Behind The Closet Door.

As my research topic I chose to research: What makes people feel so lonely, as if life were so big and scary that it is probobly not worth living. I chose this because at times I feel this way. The only time I feel safe is when I'm in my bed sleep, though not knowing if I'll wake up the next morning. I understand that people feel this way because of things that have happened to them, friends, family, or things they haave either witnessed themselves or heard about. Theses things can be violence, abuse, sexually, physically, or just the fear of living. As I reasearch, I hope to find the percentage of people who feel this way and why they do.