My name is Kierra, but I like to be called by my middle name, Imani, I think it's just such a beautiful name and it means Faith!!! I loooveeeee to sing, and dance, and jump around, and anything else that has nothing to do with BORING!!! My teacher has me writing this blog :( as an assignment and I have no idea what to say because my life is so interesting that it wld take a miliion years

Ben Franklin said that and I am inclined to agree. I know that's a radical contrast from my previous stances of both not giving a damn and almost wishing the worst would happen to me. But when the house of cards came crashing down, with it came my faith. Faith came to a grinding standstill. I have regained my faith largely because I accept the fact that it may be just a dream. Accept that I could spend a lifetime and still never reach the promised land but I hold on to hope. That's all I can do but if there's one lesson I have learned from the past it is that love cannot dwell with suspicion and that if I do feel suspicion - that there's probably a good reason for it. Along with a great fall comes increasing restrictions on your ability to thoroughly invest yourself in the next great love affair. That is why I will not fall so easily in love again and why I won't drown.

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Posted on September 9th, 2009 at 7:38PM

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   Posted by Sapphiestears on Sep 9th, 2009 at 7:40PM

   I completely agree with you

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   Posted by dobema01 on Sep 9th, 2009 at 7:52PM

   I definitely agree with this statement. My boyfriend and I have been going out for two years, and it has taken me a long time to learn how to trust him. Even with the small things, like holding my hand, or listening to me, has taken time. But the truth is, I've had a lot of less-caring, less-supportive boyfriends and a mother who has borderline personality disorder, both of which has forced me to set up boundaries for myself.
   Honestly, I can say that knowing both sides makes the caring relationship just that much sweeter.

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   Posted by MosaicManX2 on Sep 9th, 2009 at 8:15PM

   I can't empathize with the mother however, I can say that given my propensity for diving neck deep into relationships to the point where it became a part of my identity was a critical factor in my evolution from that point.

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What is trust?

A trusted party is presumed to seek to fulfill policies, ethical codes, law and their previous promises.

Trust does not need to involve belief in the good character, vices, or morals of the other party. Persons engaged in a criminal activity usually trust each other to some extent. Also, trust does not need to include an action that you and the other party are mutually engaged in. Trust is a statement about what is otherwise unknown -- for example, because it is far away, cannot be verified, or is in the future.In the social sciences, the subtleties of trust are a subject of ongoing research. In sociology and psychology the degree to which one party trusts another is a measure of belief in the honesty, fairness, or benevolence of another party. The term "confidence" is more appropriate for a belief in the competence of the other party. Based on the most recent research, a failure in trust may be forgiven more easily if it is interpreted as a failure of competence rather than a lack of benevolence or honesty. In economics trust is often conceptualized as reliability in transactions. In all cases trust is a heuristic decision rule, allowing the human to deal with complexities that would require unrealistic effort in rational reasoning.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trust_(social_sciences)

1.reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

2.confident expectation of something; hope.

3.confidence in the certainty of future payment for property or goods received; credit: to sell merchandise on trust.

4.a person on whom or thing on which one relies: God is my trust.

5.the condition of one to whom something has been entrusted.

6.the obligation or responsibility imposed on a person in whom confidence or authority is placed: a position of trust.

7.charge, custody, or care: to leave valuables in someone's trust.

8.something committed or entrusted to one's care for use or safekeeping, as an office, duty, or the like; responsibility; charge.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/trust

Out of 221 responses, only 1 person said that they would seek preofessional help if their boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on them. 25 people said that they would get revenge on them. 49 people like myslelf would talk to friends or family about the situsation. Also 43 people said that they would cry. Only 23 people would start yelling and gettin angry. Glad to know, only 9 people would start being promiscuous. 18 people break things. 48 people said that handle it differently.

Why do we trust?

Why do we trust people we perceive to be similar to ourselves? Surprisingly, the answers are simple. Trust between people is based on the perception that efforts between the parties will be reciprocated, reactions will be predictable, and members of the organization will least likely be faced with situations in which they are unprepared. The desire for security is a key motivator in developing trusting relationships in an organization.
People tend to more readily accept those who have similar backgrounds and common life elements with which they can identify. We think those similar to ourselves will react to a situation in a predictable manner. People want to appear consistent in their behavior, and respond to others who appear consistent. According to a Baylor University Academic Journal, “trust is based on a perception of the probability that other agents will behave in a way that is expected (Gambetta, 1988)” (Entrepreneurship: Theory and Practice, July 2006).
Persuasion is how we are influenced to trust based on our environment and life experiences. The persuasion to trust a person can be brought about by our peers, our needs, and the availability of opportunities which support our way of life. Persuasion motivates us to accept and trust people, ideas, principles, faiths, and respect authority.
According to Robert Cialdini(1), there are six characteristics of human nature which come into play to bring forth a favorable response in persuasion. These are “reciprocation, consistency, social validation, liking, authority, and scarcity.” These elements will either positively or negatively influence a person to make a decision about trusting someone they have just met, and understanding the effects of persuasion can improve relationships within an organization.
Someone who has not gained our trust may seem like a wild card, and when gaging the successful outcome we hope the deck is stacked in our favor. This fear of failure allows us to justify exclusions within the workplace, even if we know the exclusions are unfair or wrong. If we have to share responsibility for the outcome of a project, we want to give ourselves every advantage possible.

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Gender, age, and physical attributes are just a few sources of distrust. People can feel threatened by these differences, even if they have nothing to do with the performance of the worker in question. This is why is it vital for the organization to have a powerful, respected and established authority, because when in doubt, members of the organization will trust those they respect. “[Authority] can build trust by signaling the other's trustworthiness and reducing the inequality of exchange.” (2)
The motivation of security. People trust those similar to themselves because of fear and insecurity, the thought of facing situations they aren't prepared for, and reducing risk in their lives. From this, we can see that the goal of surrounding ourselves with those we trust is to establish the strongest network of support so our trepidation is met with confidence when faced with daunting tasks. People want security, and find security in things they know and understand.
Persuasion is partly based on ideas people have already accepted, and furthered by the probability of gaining more security. Sometimes, this limits our ability to explore new ideas and possibilities because we want to control risk. Trust is a risk taking experience, but so is repeated acceptance of subjective persuasion without considering the benefits of unexplored options.
Understanding why people trust those similar to themselves can help distinguish biased or prejudiced judgments from valid concerns. The ability of people to communicate reasonable concerns or apprehension to the organization can avert obstacles in the completion of projects, and strengthen team member relationships.Read more at Suite101: Why do we trust people?: Perception, persuasion, motivation, and how this affects trust. http://office-politics.suite101.com/article.cfm/why_do_we_trust_people#ixzz0jDodVlWg

Research Questions for Relationships

• What do you do when your bf/gf cheats on you?
• Why do people get upset when a relationship goes down the drain?
• How does it make you feel when someone you love loses trust in you?
• How do you feel when you lose trust in someone that you love?
• Do you think you can ever gain their trust back?
• What makes a person trust another person?

Shut Behind The Closet Door

I sit here and think to myself, why do people feel lonely. It came to my mind that not too long ago, I felt the same way. My reasoning for feeling this way might be the same as others. I will never know. I do notice that when I look at the news, something bad happens everyday, someone gets shot everyday, while a baby is being birthed into this world, another one is facing death. I look and see how people are hurt everyday and I think of myself. I have never been in harmful situations, such as the people i watch on the news. Being raised in my little city of Decatur, much of this violence is not acted. But whose to say that one day a person will try to kill me. my family, a friend, or just a neighbor down the street. I worry about that. I expect to wake up every morning and fall asleep every night. Never thinking of reality. Reality. Reality is real. Death is real, violence is real, pain is real. We don't live a fairytale life and that frightens me. Sometimes, I'm afraid to walk down the street of a neighborhood, or I'm scared to go in the store in a plaza. Sometimes, I just want to lay in bed all day, never facing that the next person sparing their life will be.